I Took today off from work to stay home and catch up on paperwork,
however I've made an executive decision, and this blog made it first on my list of things to do.....
With only a few days before I leave I've been thinking about all the steps we've climbed to get to where we are today.....And I've come to realise that I'm very blessed.
We may not have the child we so dearly want.....however we are fortunate enough to get the chance to keep trying.
So the lead up to leaving involves buying pineoclean disinfectant, bushman's insect repellent and a lot of Panadols... Cause Those car horns are gunna do my head in.!!! And just spoke to hotel manager. It's 38 degrees!! so I guess a little time will be spent by the pool :0)
I've been doing a little research as to why, I was told only recently that I can use only one surrogate.
As it turns out there are a lot of grey areas, due to very unclear legislation & FRRO not sure as to what new legislation will be. SCI will only use 1 surrogate to avoid legal complications when the time comes to exit with a baby. As disappointed as we are, it makes us feel a little more secure amongst all this uncertainty, and shows that Dr Shivani and SCI are doing their best to still make our dreams come true, with as a little pain as possible due to new changes..
Speaking of new changes this ones a BEAUTY!!! And has had the surrogacy IP (intended parents) page on fire today....Now this is my blog page, so I'm going to use the words I used when I first saw this. Hope I don't offended anyone, and if I do......sorry. In relation to the link bellow...
http://www.dfat.gov.au/passports/surrogacy/
SOME DUMB FK, D#%K HEADS IN OUR AUSTRALIAN GOVERNMENT DEPARTMENT OF FOREIGN AFFAIRS AND TRADE - Passport office has issued this....
From April 24th all IPs will need to have and submit a letter from the surrogate giving the surrogates permission for YOUR BIOLOGICAL CHILD to travel internationally and get a passport. It also allows her not to give that permission, and if she agrees then she would have to continue to sign until the child was 18!!!
Now there's a lot of what that F#%K are these people on!!!
Firstly the contracts states that the surrogate has relinquished all legal bindings to a child, (when its born) so how dose the Australian Gov come in and revers all contacts by giving the SURROGATE PARENTAL RIGHTS??? IDIOTS!
Secondly, there are a lot of holes, like what if the surrogate can't be contacted, if she moves without a forwarding address, but mainly what sh%ts me is that there is a contract. The surrogate relinquishes all legal rights.
Honestly, the leaps and bounds that we all must go though to have a child, to have our dream family is amazing.....i truly hope this isn't a crappy tactic because the government thinks its exploitation to women in third world countries. I personally want to slap anyone that tells me we as IPs are exploiting women in a third world country.
To anyone that has that opinion, travel with me to India and follow my path to my dream, where you will see the strength and passion of all these people who want simply a baby. You'll see that the Surrogate women who do this, do so with their heart. It provides their whole family support for years, and when you read what they really want, well..... its to send THEIR children to school for a chance at a better education. Not like some of our Aust Lazy Ass Parents, who fall pregnant just to get the Baby Bonus that our Aust Gov gives out for just giving birth to a baby that they probably don't won't, and probably won't care for as much as these soulful and spiritual women do for Their children.
Ok....I've had my rant....and I may have side tracked a bit. So back to the new obstacle presented to us. I'll be reading up on the situation and there are a lot of families O/S about to go through the hoop.
Will update when I hear more.
But as for me, I'll be leaving in the next few days. Thankful V is at the shop, cause going thought these next steps are already taking up the better part of my day, so not worrying about staff, orders, payments and in general all shop stuff is one thing I'm grateful for.
I'm the type of person who will give you my last bite of cadbury flake chocolate ( and i luv flake!) .....but right now, my brain isn't switched onto socialising, or really anyone other than this journey, and I am sorry for that.http://www.dfat.gov.au/passports/surrogacy/
SOME DUMB FK, D#%K HEADS IN OUR AUSTRALIAN GOVERNMENT DEPARTMENT OF FOREIGN AFFAIRS AND TRADE - Passport office has issued this....
From April 24th all IPs will need to have and submit a letter from the surrogate giving the surrogates permission for YOUR BIOLOGICAL CHILD to travel internationally and get a passport. It also allows her not to give that permission, and if she agrees then she would have to continue to sign until the child was 18!!!
Now there's a lot of what that F#%K are these people on!!!
Firstly the contracts states that the surrogate has relinquished all legal bindings to a child, (when its born) so how dose the Australian Gov come in and revers all contacts by giving the SURROGATE PARENTAL RIGHTS??? IDIOTS!
Secondly, there are a lot of holes, like what if the surrogate can't be contacted, if she moves without a forwarding address, but mainly what sh%ts me is that there is a contract. The surrogate relinquishes all legal rights.
Honestly, the leaps and bounds that we all must go though to have a child, to have our dream family is amazing.....i truly hope this isn't a crappy tactic because the government thinks its exploitation to women in third world countries. I personally want to slap anyone that tells me we as IPs are exploiting women in a third world country.
To anyone that has that opinion, travel with me to India and follow my path to my dream, where you will see the strength and passion of all these people who want simply a baby. You'll see that the Surrogate women who do this, do so with their heart. It provides their whole family support for years, and when you read what they really want, well..... its to send THEIR children to school for a chance at a better education. Not like some of our Aust Lazy Ass Parents, who fall pregnant just to get the Baby Bonus that our Aust Gov gives out for just giving birth to a baby that they probably don't won't, and probably won't care for as much as these soulful and spiritual women do for Their children.
Ok....I've had my rant....and I may have side tracked a bit. So back to the new obstacle presented to us. I'll be reading up on the situation and there are a lot of families O/S about to go through the hoop.
Will update when I hear more.
But as for me, I'll be leaving in the next few days. Thankful V is at the shop, cause going thought these next steps are already taking up the better part of my day, so not worrying about staff, orders, payments and in general all shop stuff is one thing I'm grateful for.
I'm tired. Exhausted. And emotional. And for the last year and a bit, I wake up with a hand full of strength that gets me thought the day, i have no strength to sugar coat anything anymore, not for anyone. By the end of most days I'm left with just enough strength to smile and thank god for the new path we are on.
All IPs are doing is wanting to start a family. Its the simplest act that most people take for granted.
There are so many illegal acts being done to children, even here in Australia that NO ONE seems to care about or put enough effort into.
So instead of making this simple act such a challenge, how about Australian government
put more of a focus on How to improve Adoption and how to keep kids safe in foster care with potential adoption in sight with in our own country!!
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!! - all of these changes are just making me soooooo angry!!
ReplyDeleteBUT knowing how close you are to making your dreams come true - the hardest part is the pregnancy... everything from there is just a hassle.
In regards to the 2 surrogates - we had 2, but only one got pregnant.... it only takes one egg and one surrogate.
We've everything crossed for you xxxxxxxxx
YOU. ARE. SPOT. ON. Its a hassel, it shits me cause we keep getting thrown new hoops to jump, just when you think you can breathe. But what the Aust Gov doesn't know is that every IP have an inner strength that we all show when it comes to OUR CHILDREN!
ReplyDeleteAnd YEP! whatever the percentage is for a positive & healthy pregnancy theres no reason I can be in that! xx
I'm agrre with you. I'm fros Spain and we have the same problem. My husband and me are waiting for the third attempt with SCI. I hope everything will go well. Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteHi David.. Its hard coming to terms with all these changes, but, like others have so beautifully reminded me, It will happen for you. I also wish you the best of luck. When will you be back in India?
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